Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts

Monday, December 15, 2008

What to Talk While on a Date

by: PeterHaliday


While you are on to a date, you need to know what you should converse with your partner and what you should avoid. Interesting talks on the first date pave the way for further dating schedules.

Conversation Strategy

People should devote a substantial amount of time towards the preparation of dating conversation topics. The selected topics should never lead to close ended answers as this disallows the opportunity of learning about the other person. A date should be approached as if it were an interview. Few topics that get the conversation rolling are as follows:

1. Dynamics and Size of Family: This helps us in finding out whether our date belongs to a big family and its history, tradition and values. Any person would love to speak about his/her family which makes this topic a sure shot topic for a date.

2. Hobbies: Each and every passion has a hobby or passion that he/she follows because of the sole pleasure derived out of it. Hence, hobbies make for interesting dating conversation topics. Discussion can range from music to fitness, and travel to culinary preferences. Talking about hobbies also helps in gauging the compatibility with your date. The kind of hobbies that a person follows has deep roots within the very personality of a person and hence these discussions are immensely helpful.

3. Fond Memories: With the passage of life, we leave behind a lot of memories that hold a special place in our heart. Discussing about these instances, instantly strikes a soft chord with the other person. This topic helps in bringing out the emotional self of the other person and if he/she finds that we are genuinely interested, an instant connect is developed.

4. Crazy Instances: There is no denying the fact that if two people are able to share a good laugh together, there will not be much time before both of them will grow really fond of each other. Talking about the various crazy things that the other person has done helps immensely in this regard. It is also an important topic as far as digging out hidden information is concerned about one's habits and addictions.

5. Money Spending Preferences: This makes for an interesting topic as it helps in gauging about our date's spending habits and priorities. This is important to know as far as long term association with respect to financial values and ethics are concerned.

6. Ambitions: Talking about one's ambition helps in finding the current satisfaction level of that person. If a person has been in the same profession for a long time, he is more likely to commit for a long term relationship on account of his/her stable mindedness. A person who has ambitions of moving over to different profession may not instantly commit for a relationship.

7. Relationships and Routine: This topic can be used for discussing about our date's closeness with his/her family which gives us an indication about how important relationships are for him/her. Routine is probably one of the most effective dating conversation topics as everyone loves talking what they are doing.

8. Expectations from a Date: Some people tend to have idealistic viewpoints and unrealistic expectations which might lead to future incompatibility. Hence, knowing the expectations straight away helps a lot in developing a long lasting relationship.

Proper preparation and clear mindedness helps a lot in deriving the most out of a date.

Going on a coffee date? Learn how you can come up with good topics of conversation people love to talk about and here are few conversation tips if you have ever struggled to engage with your partner in a meaningful conversation.




Thursday, December 4, 2008

Dating on a Budget

by DEBORAH DIXON

With some creativity and preparation, dating needn’t be an expensive experience. Dating on a budget doesn’t mean a date will be less romantic, or that your date will think you are being tight-fisted; it will show that you are using your imagination and trying to be innovative. Whether you prefer to eat at a restaurant or go to the theatre, remember there are always cheaper date options. Your date doesn’t need to know how much money you spend on a date; the most important thing is that you spend some quality time together and have fun getting to know one another. There are numerous ways for you to have a wonderful date without overspending which range from being completely free, to being relatively low-cost.


Eating is included in many date options, whether it is in a restaurant, bar or coffee shop. Eating out can take up a large portion of your date budget, but there are many alternative options to avoid this. Cooking at home is very popular with couples as it gives you the opportunity to relax in home surroundings while enjoying a delicious home cooked meal. It also gives you the chance to show off your cookery talent, or be impressed by your date’s cookery skills. Alternatively you could enjoy a takeaway together and share your favourite dishes. Depending on the amount of food you order, takeaway prices are relatively cheap compared to a fancy restaurant. A picnic is another great date idea. A romantic setting in the countryside to enjoy a tasty picnic allows you to relax and make the most of the piece and quiet. A picnic can be as extravagant as you wish, or keep it simple for a lower cost. If you like the idea of a picnic and staying at home, another great idea is a candle-lit picnic on the living room floor. This is good if it is raining outside, plus it enables you to put on romantic music in the background. If you prefer going to a restaurant, then a lower-cost option is to go to a restaurant at lunchtime when many restaurants have special lunchtime offers and discounted meals. Alternatively you could have a mouth-watering pub lunch, which are often cheaper than restaurant prices.


If you like to go to the cinema or theatre on a date, there are cheaper options. Many cinemas offer discounted ticket prices on particular days and times, usually when visiting the cinema is unpopular. This does vary from cinema to cinema, but it is definitely worth looking in to. Another great idea is to watch a movie in the comfort of your own home. Not only is it cheaper and cosier, it also enables you to watch whichever movie you feel like, unlike the cinema where you are restricted to a handful of films. Why not substitute a visit to the theatre with a comedy club? Laughing is a great way to bring two people closer together, so a comedy club is a perfect option, plus it is guaranteed that you will end the date with a smile on your face. If you’re not a great fan of comedy, you could always attend a book reading or poetry reading at a local bookshop. If both you and your date enjoy books and poetry, then this is an ideal option for you and it has the bonus of being free of charge.


If you are a fan of the outdoors and fresh air then there are several date ideas for you. A gentle stroll or even a hike in the countryside, the park or a wood is a good way to spend some quality time together. Without any interruptions you will have all the time you need to get to know one another without spending a penny. You then have the choice of taking some sandwiches with you and eating them in a quiet location, but don’t forget to take some extra bread to feed the ducks if you are near a river or lake. Other outdoor date ideas include watching the sunset or sunrise, bird watching and stargazing, all of which can be very romantic, especially watching the stars in the fresh night air. Even if you aren’t interested in birds or the stars, it can be enjoyable to learn something new with someone you care about.


There are several active date ideas that are low-cost which are great if you enjoy being energetic. You don’t need to have special equipment or belong to a specialised club to take part in sport; your local park and a ball are sufficient. Being active is a great way to have fun and make you feel relaxed at the same time. Cycling is a great date idea if you enjoy the outdoors and enjoy being active. This won’t cost you anything if you already own a bike. Alternatively many nature reserves or wooded locations allow you to hire bikes and cycle around the area. Less energetic activities such as miniature golf is another low-cost way to have fun. You could even take up kite flying and perhaps even make your own kite out of newspaper and bits you have about the house. You will have lots of fun together trying to get your homemade kite lift off the ground.


Other low-cost date ideas include window shopping, playing a board game, a visit to an art gallery or museum and a trip to the beach. Depending on parking prices and location, these ideas can be cost-free. Many museums and galleries are free to visit and a day at the beach needn’t cost much if you take your own food and rug to sit on.


If you are interested in learning something new with your partner, why not take up a hobby together? It will cost to learn a new hobby, such as dancing or painting, but in the long run it will be cheaper than multiple visits to a restaurant, cinema or theatre. As well as having fun together, a hobby will lead to further date ideas to carry out, for example, visiting a castle or lake to paint your view.


Many of these date ideas can be as expensive or inexpensive as you like, but don’t forget about hidden costs. Remember that admission fees, parking charges and eating and drinking out costs all add up and can make a date more expensive. If you plan your date and take into account possible added costs, then you can achieve a successful romantic date on a budget suitable for you.


Deborah has been the head copy writer for Completely Free Dating for over 2 years offering help and advice to its members on all aspects of dating. Completely Free Dating is a free online dating
service for people living in the UK, with absolutely no charges to any member at any time for any service.